Do people ever annoy you? It happens to me pretty much every day on one level or another. From people changing lanes without using a turn signal, to intelligent people saying words like irregardless.
But I find that there are certain things that really set me over the top. The recent revelation I had, however, is the things that are at the top of that list are actually things that I do to other people.
Thus the phrase “Spot it, you got it”. My life coach bounced this phrase off me a couple of weeks ago when I was explaining a recent issue I was dealing with. When I say bounce, what I really mean is it felt like a sack of bricks just slammed against my skull and jolted me off my chair.
We were hammering through an unresolved conflict that I was dealing with. I happened to be irritated with a colleague who was notorious for being late. In this particular instance, he had delayed so much in getting his part of the project done, that it ended up causing a significant redesign on my part of the project to meet the schedule.
I hate when that happens!
I was so irritated that I was planning to confront him about this issue, when literally about four weeks later I had the exact same thing happen again; this time in reverse. I had a scheduling conflict come up and the next thing I know, I’m the guy holding hat in hand asking him to fast track his part of the project to meet the deadline.
I really hate when that happens…
A couple of things came to mind: 1) I’m more proud of what I don’t say, than what I do say. And 2) Don’t judge others lest you be judged in the same way.
Or as you can see in Mathew 7: 3 Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.
Like a constant beating rhythm in the background, there are certain things that tend to happen over and over again, almost subconsciously. This is one of them. I know that I will continue to make mistakes and the mistakes of others are certain to irritate me. But the hope is that with a little perspective, I may be less quick to judge and hopefully a little quicker to forgive and move on.
As a result of this revelation, I really do try to pay attention to those little annoying things that other people do, as it may reveal exactly the things that I do to other people.
Spot it, you got it.